when's y o u r birthday?

fascination

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See, it's all relative.... If we're talkin' someone I'd like to date, then I agree with you.

*However*, you're talkin "chicas reaching their prime"...I'd have to say that's still young. ;)

*grin*
well...I don't think I would want a single guy (like never married or divorced) who's over 40 b/c... well...if it looks like a duck...(sure there are exceptions) ...though I'd have no prob w/ one who was divorced or widowed or previously had been in a long committed relationship (in a broadly sweeping generalized sort of way)...but if I was suddenly single, I would definately be open to anyone who was within a decade younger to maybe 5 years older...provided that they had some sort of history of a committed relationship...

as for what constitutes young...to me that is about fitness and lifestyle which would be my primary criteria over age...I need a fit dude...(well, if I didn't have a dude);)
 

Peaches

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It's practically middle-aged.
OK. That's it! Where can I complain about the moderator?!?! :D

30 = middle aged???? Surely, you must be joking. (I'm not joking. And quit calling me Shirley.) Well, crap. I guess I should start shopping for burial plots now or something...start looking into Old Folks Homes...find myself a walker...

*mutters to self* ...30...middle aged..hmph!...little, snot-nosed kids these days...
 

Peaches

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well...I don't think I would want a single guy (like never married or divorced) who's over 40 b/c... well...if it looks like a duck...(sure there are exceptions) ...though I'd have no prob w/ one who was divorced or widowed or previously had been in a long committed relationship (in a broadly sweeping generalized sort of way)...but if I was suddenly single, I would definately be open to anyone who was within a decade younger to maybe 5 years older...provided that they had some sort of history of a committed relationship...
Really?!?! I don't think I could ever seriously consider a guy who was younger than me...and certainly not by 5-10 years. 5-10 years older (and quite possibly even more than that), sure, but not younger. And the single v. not thing never occurred to me.
 

samina

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...I need a fit dude..
As well, here...but psychological fitness and a youthful outlook is so key for me. If I met someone my age or older who wasn't talking about how old he felt, or how bitter, or how dissipated in other areas...it would be a remarkable event. I feel more compatible with significantly younger gents primarily because they are aspiring, and motivated, and believing. Well...and their general energy level as well. :)
 

samina

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Really?!?! I don't think I could ever seriously consider a guy who was younger than me...and certainly not by 5-10 years. 5-10 years older (and quite possibly even more than that), sure, but not younger.
I was like that when I was younger. Always with older men.

In a decade or two it's possible you'd have a different perspective. :)
 

Peaches

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As well, here...but psychological fitness and a youthful outlook is so key for me. If I met someone my age or older who wasn't talking about how old he felt, or how bitter, or how dissipated in other areas...it would be a remarkable event. I feel more compatible with significantly younger gents primarily because they are aspiring, and motivated, and believing. Well...and their general energy level as well. :)
That makes sense. I just don't think I could get past dating someone younger. There's just something hard-wired in me, it seems, to be completely turned off by a guy who's younger than me.
 

samina

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Fair point. I grant you that. Check back with me in a few years.
Will do. :)

I can relate to the sentiment you expressed above...younger men just did not do it for me on any level. But as I said...things change. My hard-wiring has changed, I guess. ;)

But actually, I am much more youthful in spirit now than when I was a young person. Sometimes people reverse that as they evolve.
 

Peaches

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But actually, I am much more youthful in spirit now than when I was a young person. Sometimes people reverse that as they evolve.
Totally understand and agree. I'm a lot "younger" now than I was 10 or 15 years ago, in some ways.

Edit to add: I think I got to the rebelling and being wild stage rather late in the game. I think I'm just getting to it now. :)
 

samina

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I think I'm just getting to it now. :)
Heh...go for it. ;)

For me, it's in the context of wanting no constraint to living a full-throttle life...whatever I want to experience, especially if my reserved nature held me back previously, it's time to move past that.

If I've been reserved my whole life, reason stands that there's a lotta unexpressed energy that's been waiting for *some* point of expression. :)
 

fascination

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Really?!?! I don't think I could ever seriously consider a guy who was younger than me...and certainly not by 5-10 years. 5-10 years older (and quite possibly even more than that), sure, but not younger. And the single v. not thing never occurred to me.
well...the older you get darlin...the less young the younger guys are...you'll see...plus they tend to die younger and it takes so long to train them;)
 

fascination

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Staff member
As well, here...but psychological fitness and a youthful outlook is so key for me. If I met someone my age or older who wasn't talking about how old he felt, or how bitter, or how dissipated in other areas...it would be a remarkable event. I feel more compatible with significantly younger gents primarily because they are aspiring, and motivated, and believing. Well...and their general energy level as well. :)
agree about upbeat regardless of age...
 
well...the older you get darlin...the less young the younger guys are...you'll see...plus they tend to die younger and it takes so long to train them;)

a legend :notworth:

i never had younger BF, but now i date a man who is 15 years older than me. he was married once and divorced, and he looks 10 years younger than he is. but what i like is his personality.
 

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