Whining Thread #2

#41
trust me...the death of my mother and other various deepest pains of my life hurt enough...and they left me weaker....maybe wiser and more compassionate...but weaker...much much weaker...I think absoulute statements like that trivialize and overgeneralize people's unique journeys...just my opinion
Weakness shouldn't be seen as a bad thing either if anything it's humbling and allows one to be more reflective and think about what really matters most.

Nothing can be categorized into two absolute categories, we all live in the grey. Now see what I did? I just contradicted myself.
 
#42
good luck ...my heart goes out to you...some times bright young women get really abused by other women...it really puzzles me...hopeful your studio owner will support you
Thank you, luckily this has been the first time it has happened to me, the other incidents have happened to other teachers at our studio. Last night the owner took care of the situation really well and I fully appreciate it. :)
 
#43
I don't know what this couple's situation is said:
And there you are right - who is to say that the guy does not want this kind of relationship? Perhaps a close friend or relative might wonder if the situation is bad enough to be called abusive but, in particular without any signs of mental or physical pain its up to everyone to stay out of it.

One mans heaven is another man's hell (goes well for women too, of course).
 

fascination

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#44
Weakness shouldn't be seen as a bad thing either if anything it's humbling and allows one to be more reflective and think about what really matters most.

Nothing can be categorized into two absolute categories, we all live in the grey. Now see what I did? I just contradicted myself.
I think you did fine:together:
 
#47
Perhaps I should have said suffer...

Suffering produces perservance, perservance - character, and character - hope.
eww
yes, it can - but it can also make twisted minds, nutcases and psychopaths...

there again, I don't think we are being fair - I think you really mean hardship, not suffering. Hardship (if not so extreme it cripples) can certainly make you stronger - my parent's generation (at least in England) seemed so much stronger than my own or my son's - they went through the depression, the war and much of the post-war years of hardship.
 
#51
crikey... five active valentine's threads? five...????
er, six now sam.... six (makes cross sign....)
rotfl! Just double checked and it is only five ;) one of which is a Whining thread which 'does not count', which means that there are only four and therefore only one more than there are flirting threads :lol: :banana:

So as not to hijack the whining thread (the above is not a whine!), there should be more Valentine's... ooops, I meant flirting threads ;)
 

fascination

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#52
Perhaps I should have said suffer...

Suffering produces perservance, perservance - character, and character - hope.
I am familiar with that quote...and it's origin, but it is not an absolute, only a best possible outcome of many....perhpas it is just me, but as a counselor, particularly delaing with grief, I tend to avoid such staements b/c I thin they unitentionally over simplify and minimize, suffering hardship etc...it is more complex and unique than one particular saying...not to say that there isn't some truth in most good sayings
 

bordertangoman

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#55
rotfl! Just double checked and it is only five ;) one of which is a Whining thread which 'does not count', which means that there are only four and therefore only one more than there are flirting threads :lol: :banana:

So as not to hijack the whining thread (the above is not a whine!), there should be more Valentine's... ooops, I meant flirting threads ;)
beware of the Valentine Vampires...............
 
#56
So what you're saying Pacion, is that we need a Valentine-flirting thread? And since valentine-flirting means coming onto someone else's Valentine, we may also need a valentine'counselling thread. We are back to 6...

though with the number of gripes about valentines here I think it definitely counts... Bring on Feb 15th....
 

bordertangoman

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#57
So what you're saying Pacion, is that we need a Valentine-flirting thread? And since valentine-flirting means coming onto someone else's Valentine, we may also need a valentine'counselling thread. We are back to 6...

though with the number of gripes about valentines here I think it definitely counts... Bring on Feb 15th....
I quite agree. Maybe we can make feb 15th a more useful and exciting day.
 
#58
Yes, the 'phew, the 'corny Feb 14th valentines day is over' or 'chocolate poisoning: lets hit the gym, day' (cf new years resolutions - or is that a dirty word now?
 
#59
I have a question. Why would a guy be afraid of another guy? Let me explain. There is a guy that I work with that I know likes me. But he's afraid of my SO, because my SO could take him on and is more respected since he's worked there a number of years etc. So, he knows if he makes me mad, he's going to make my SO mad. And that's why I really think he's afraid of my SO. But I'm not sure as I don't know why a guy would be afraid of another guy like that.

Anyways, this other guy is really getting in the way of my work. He made it so bad on Saturday that I almost walked out. I called my x even, because he called in sick. I also talked it over with my SO. I was that upset that I needed to vent to anyone. See, I don't bring feelings into my work space. I never have. Neither does my SO. But this guy really made me upset by the things that he was saying that I think I'm going to talk to my boss about it. My boss is really great and very easy to talk to. I'm lucky that way.

I don't complain. I don't call in sick even when I should (by this I mean like if I have a headache or something like that to where I don't need to call it I just have to bare it). I help out the field guys instead of treating them like two year olds like some of the others. So, the field guys like me. The supervisors have all complimented me. I know that if I were to move to the area that I help out with, the supervisors all said they would hire me in an instant. In fact, the guys when they call in for the most part hang up on this one guy and will call back until they get someone they like. One sup. told me that he knows they shouldn't be doing this. but he can't control what they do that way.

Anyways, this guy really made me upset. If he's letting his feelings get in the way of work, then he needs to grow up or whatever. I'm not going to put up with it. I've always been about being professional at work. Yeah we have fun. We'll play with a beach ball with the CSR's just to lighten up things etc., but at the same time work is work. My SO and I know this. My X and I knew this. I guess I don't get why others don't think like that.
 
#60
So what you're saying Pacion, is that we need a Valentine-flirting thread? And since valentine-flirting means coming onto someone else's Valentine, we may also need a valentine'counselling thread. We are back to 6...
:nope: :lol: I think the existing flirting thread is doing 'mighty fine' on its own. Anyway, I am into recycling/multipurpose ;)

I quite agree. Maybe we can make feb 15th a more useful and exciting day.
Now THAT could be an idea for a new thread... what to do on, what are you doing on, how are you celebrating Feb 15th! :lol:
 

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