Whine Livid rant: People who are absolutely relentless in their endeavor to disrupt your recently unlikely chances of a decent sleep for no good reason at all. This is NOT a good start to my day, a few hours before I intended to.
School's bursars office is giving me and my parents the run around when we are trying to figure out why my account is off. I can't register for classes until the account is cleared... Reason 100 why I'm never giving money to my university after I graduate.
My tossing and turning is because I am drawing a total, horrifying, panicky blank on putting together choreography for my partner's partner for an upcoming huge charity event. Part of it is his music choice- he's "Tango music must BE tango music", so it's the florid overture into the march-tempo of Malando, Strasser, etc. I can't wrap my head around it and get into it. I need a good 'jam' that I can pick things out of and work on, like the terminally-overused Santa Maria or something (can't use that one, it's been done twice already). Everybody else basically just downloads SYTYCD, DWTS, and top competitor routines from youtube and has their own coaches dupe them with necessary "crap, that's too hard, we have to change that part" adjustments, and I didn't want to do that. If I have to resort to that, I think I'm burning my garish pink dance shoes and finding another pastime. I don't want to disappoint my partner and create extra work for any of the assisting coaches.
I will have to watch that when I'm not at a work computer that has disabled flash and other things I'd actually rather be using.
For now, I have to remind myself that while I have the right to assert my opinion, it is up to other people how they choose to interpret that, and after it leaves my hands, I can't force anybody to see it the way I intended it, and trying too hard to do so is counterproductive- and also sometimes just a waste of time. Not a whine, just a self-reminder I have to leave somewhere I can see.
thing is...when someone else's tone rankles you so badly that it affects your tone (which we ourselves almost never notice)then you end up rankling the next person...yada yada...I think we all go through it......we all need to vent...it is just that when we don't take care of how we do it, it can be more trouble than it is worth
I disagree with that idea that once it's out there it's not my problem. I think it is our responsibility to communicate effectively and accurately what we intend. If we practiced and were taught better communication skills people wouldn't get their feathers ruffled unnecessarily. That and giving people the benefit of the doubt.
good point...my take? (lol, since no one asked)...I have an obligation to be as civil and respectful as I can be absent a substantial extenuating circumstance which makes something more blunt the only remaining option....it is true that if I have tried my best, I can't do much more...but if I have the take that "this is just the way I am so bite me" approach....I am probably occasionally going to get bitten....and please note that I am speaking in general terms...cross my heart hope to die...not of any particular person...just a thought sparked by the previous though
gah...I really should start using spell check...edited again...for spelling
I don't know if anybody here has to deal with a family member who is an opioid addict, but it is, to say the least, very, VERY trying. So this is my weekly "biggest whine" that has come to a head today. Normally, it's just a nuisance. Sometimes not at all. But near the first of every month, things come to a head, and being around it, I find my brain too full of dealing with it, so I crack a little to relieve the pressure, and bounce back in time to smile and dance.