Whining Thread #2

Hedwaite

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You could just lie and hold a few back. It wouldn't be lying if you said "Sorry, sir, that's all we have for you..." On the other hand, a cake sold is a cake you don't have to write off and throw away if it's unsold later.
 

fascination

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i don't see what's so hard about simply saying, "hey, we'd like to have some of these for others...about how many do you think you are going to want and how often?...no committment, but please help us get a ballpark figure"
 

stash

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Just received an email from a professor from a class that only meets once a week on thursday's... He wants us to have a paper proposal in tomorrow for our final 10pg research paper. He had to wait today to send this email... And couldn't send it, idk before spring break... I'm getting no sleep tonight. That's for sure....
 

Lioness

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You could just lie and hold a few back. It wouldn't be lying if you said "Sorry, sir, that's all we have for you..." On the other hand, a cake sold is a cake you don't have to write off and throw away if it's unsold later.
That's what I do if he arrives after I've had a chance to put the orders away. Most of the time he waits for the truck though.

Today I just let him know that if he wants a whole lot of them, he should put in a special order. We generally only get three a day because we're a small store, but if he's dropping by we need to order 6. Dropped a subtle "because other customers later in the day are missing out".
 

Hedwaite

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Maybe I'm doing that annoying white knight indignation on someone's behalf when unsolicited thing again, but this pisses me off:

We're passing a card around to sign for someone who's not in our class, but is a fellow dancer and the situation warrants a card, to say the least. Two couples plug into class, listen, go "Enh, *shrug* I'm not gonna bother to sign it. I mean, whatever- they're nothing to us, right?"

How touching. If I received a card signed even by a bunch of strangers, I'd think "Well, that's sweet- people who don't even know care enough about this situation to make this gesture", or at least that they had the courtesy to not say "meh, screw her" but that's just me. I told them "Well, it's just basic courtesy to wish someone well- it's not going to HARM anything if you do, even if you don't know them..." but meh.

Later on, we announce that there's a dance dedicated to this person coming up, for anyone friends, family, or supporters of them. Suddenly, the same couples perk up and start asking if it's free, and said "Oh, well, maybe we could make that, then." So then, I remind them that if they're not interested in signing a card for the person, why would they be interested in crashing a party for them?

So sick of this "If I can't get anything out of it, I'm not interested, so screw it," mentality I'm seeing in these same people.
 

fascination

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while I get your point...I also get theirs...I think there is an argument for someone not being a horrible uncaring person just because they don't think it would mean something to the person in question to see their signature on the card ...but then being willing to attend a dance in their honor if it was a fundraiser...though it would be a head scratcher if it was simply a free dance but private for close acquaintances (in which case it may seem like they are being inconsistent and self-interested)...but I can see being willing to anonymously donate the entry fee and attend a dance if I like dancing while not feeling important enough to sign a card....

beyond all that, I know this is the whining thread...so everyone is entitled to whine here...but assuming whining/needing to whine is something none of us finds ideal or pleasant to experience within ourselves, I want to share the following; as I look out over the human landscape, there are a variety of things that I observe as lacking in a vast array of people...I am bothered by this considerably less now that I understand that I am the only person that I have control over and that I have work enough to do in making the world a better place by navigating my own crap...my own less than ideal tendencies and inclinations...and I also find that I need to do that from a compassionate space toward myself.... I also find that as I am compassionate with myself and begin to examine why I do the crappy stuff that I do, it becomes easier for me to understand why others might do the stuff that they do...or to at least be less aggitated or offended by it....we are all broken people....sometimes we intentionally do crappy stuff, sometimes we do stuff that was well-intended but others thought was crappy... sometimes we act out of fear, insecurity, a lack of deliberation or sensitivity....but again, it is too much in life for me to overly reflect upon why others do it...and not terribly productive to be irked by it....I am only in control of how I respond to it...and that part is on me...I do think it is fair to politely say; you know, if you feel awkward signing the card because you aren't that close to her, you might feel uncomfortable at the event because that is also geared to the same audience...particularly if it isn't a fundraiser...

none of this may be something that irks you for long enough to be relevant....I just share it because when I was at a time in life when I was often irked by many people, it was not a good use of my time on this planet...and I wish I had that time back as a wiser, freer, happier person....none of that may apply to you....I simply share it in case it does...because I wish I had lived those times with less of that in my life
 

Hedwaite

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Good points, all of them, and yes, my specific issue was with them actually saying "Well, whatever", and then perking up suddenly when they thought it might be something free from which they could benefit. Mostly, I try to use whining thread as First World Problems whining, but last night just hit me wrong. You don't use someone's memorial for its entertainment value. Another terrible habit I have is that I can't just bottle it up or get rid of it some other way, I have to SAY something about it, aloud or in text, and that's something I'll forever be working on, too.
 

fascination

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gotcha....and again, I am not trying to be "all judgey" as my daughter would say :)

I think we all have to diffuse somehow...this thread is as good a place as any....I have a helping instinct...sometimes I can't help that either....even if it doesn't help...but I try to do it sparingly :)
 

mindputtee

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Another terrible habit I have is that I can't just bottle it up or get rid of it some other way, I have to SAY something about it, aloud or in text, and that's something I'll forever be working on, too.
Just a thought about that, do you keep a journal? I know a lot of people find that very cathartic.
 

Hedwaite

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I get one "drag me down for a week, then miserable for two more weeks" cold per year, at the beginning or end of the season where I have an activity crash that drains me.

This year, this is my third cold. WTMFF. I mean, they're reasonably "high-functioning" colds, but still. Ick.
 

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