Whining Thread #2

fascination

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right....and, if you don't want to find yourself in that situation, you read the requirements for each comp you attend.....not rocket science....unlike pricing, the rules are easy to obtain...I am not a fan of calling anyone out who isn't around to explain themselves...
 

Lioness

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Bf has an annoying and rude habit of inviting people to gatherings that weren't originally invited...so inviting friends to movie dates, or like today, we invite another couple over to play board games and he invites a few other friends without checking with anyone else if it's ok...

And tbh I don't know how to bring it up but I need to because it happens all the time and sometimes I just wanna do something small.
 

Hedwaite

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I hate it when people do that. It's SO sneaky and inconsiderate. I used to be friends with a woman who did this to me and a former friend on several occasions. We'd arrange a time, place, and adventure, and at the last minute, she'd try to worm someone else in who wasn't even interested in what we were doing. She was just tagging along to chaperone and make sure we weren't up to anything. She'd make immature observations and unsolicited critiques with former friend throughout the evening, was too holy to go any place that served liquor, and we all grew tired of babysitting her and her friend, but of course I'm the only idiot who actually SAID something about it, so you can figure how that went. I confronted her about this and told her that I didn't think it was fair to do that to people without asking everyone in the party first, because it just seemed like maybe what we were doing bored her so she brought along her own entertainment.

She didn't have a response, and befriended someone else who doesn't mind being used and abused. I just think that she (and others in similar situations) shouldn't use people by roping them into things without having the courtesy to ask first. She'd also invite people to parties that she either wouldn't attend herself, OR would attend, and then completely ignore them for the whole evening. If you invite someone, YOU are responsible for whatever happens with them, not people on whom you pound them off.
 

fascination

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thing is....if you say nothing after the second time, you are volunteering for it....I wouldn't worry about how to say it...he wasn't worried about collaborating with you....it's really easy...."bf, I need you to realize that I feel unimportant when you make unilateral decisions....if we are a couple, please afford me the same courtesies I afford you"....don't go off on the whole, it's rude to others tangent yada yada, because he is going to want to debate that no harm was done....
 

FancyFeet

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And scholarship for me in June is out. Boo. Talked to pro yesterday, and while he seemed willing to work with me (within reason) on a flat rate for his dance fees, rather than per dance costs, the entry costs for the required number of single dances would still be stretching the budget... and given that the goal was just "let's see what happens, and if you dance really well, maybe you'll final", it just doesn't make sense. I get it, and am trying to console myself with the idea that all the work that's been put in over the last couple months is not wasted. I am a much better dancer now that I was in January... but I'm still a little bummed.

Instead, the plan is scholarship in September, with slightly more ambitious goals, and likely slightly more difficult routines... and I will devote the few extra dollars I've managed to figure out how to squeeze to a new dress for September, as my current one is noticeably too big.
 

fascination

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if that fails, a good seamstress ought to be able to help....back in the day, I had a very sudden weight loss around my mother's death and had to have all of my gowns taken in a good deal...it is possible
 

Lioness

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Discussed with him..."BF this was meant to be just a small thing and I feel like it's really inconsiderate when you invite people without checking with all other parties involved. Not just tonight, but also to movies and stuff."

Tl;dr he does it because he wants to hang out with friends more often and doesn't get the chance, so he invites people to things so he can see more people at once. I have explained that I find unexpected friends draining and not really who I want to hang out with when I say "hey let's go see a movie together". Compromise...I specify very clearly when I want it to only be certain people, and otherwise he gives me a heads up. I still think it's pretty rude, but for some reason he missed that life lesson.

Related note...bf says he is an introvert..he so isn't. "I'm an introvert but I make myself not be drained by socialising and I hate being by myself a lot. I love hanging out with friends...the more the merrier!"

...doesn't sound like my kind of introvert. Both me and his mum are very similar in that when we want downtime we want it solo or with an SO. He likes to hang out with a friend or two and do stuff. Maybe he is an introvert, but it sure as hell doesn't sound like it.

Oh well.
 

Cal

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In preparation for laying a new phone line along the the driveway, the Utility Line Locator guy shows up today (Sunday, for goodness' sake!) and asks me to keep the dog inside because he might get in the way of the "complicated" work Utility Locator Guy has to do. I read this as a sign that the poor guy (who actually seem very nice) is afraid of dogs. So, against my better judgement, I let the labrador retriever out along the other side of the house and, sure enough, he's in the creek and I've got to wipe down a muddy dog.
 

Sania

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In preparation for laying a new phone line along the the driveway, the Utility Line Locator guy shows up today (Sunday, for goodness' sake!) and asks me to keep the dog inside because he might get in the way of the "complicated" work Utility Locator Guy has to do. I read this as a sign that the poor guy (who actually seem very nice) is afraid of dogs. So, against my better judgement, I let the labrador retriever out along the other side of the house and, sure enough, he's in the creek and I've got to wipe down a muddy dog.
Sounds like the Labrador had a fun day!
 

Hedwaite

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Is there a status report the powers that might be can share on the Tapatalk issue? I know that some of us spent money on the app specifically for use with this forum, and to add to the frustration, not only did it stop working, but the app later even became free, and there's another app by the same people called "forum fiend" that seems interesting.

I know someone said it was a coding issue that went awry during an update, and that Tapatalk support said to contact this site admin, which several have done, but that was the last I'd heard of it. I'd posed the question of couldn't the update be uninstalled and still have reasonable functionality- I know that sometimes this is possible with android apps- you don't like a facelift or that some features were integrated in a way you don't like, so you just find the fully-functional older version. I didn't know if that was do-able, or if it would require money or time, or how much of either.
 

dancelvr

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OH....and if you ever want to feel what it's like to completely clear out your nasal passages.....try slamming two ibuprofen tablets (for a screaming headache) with the last swallow of a vodka martini, and have it go down the wrong way. Oy! After it was all over, I haven't breathed so clearly in weeks!
 

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