wed. taught 3 classes....home to a brief nap and some food...recieve a call that offers me the hope of a light at the end of the tunnel which might not be a train...encouraged...struggle a bit less through hot yoga than previous weeks, see engaged couples....begin to set a new shcedule for the next chapter of my life...and hope that it is a kinder gentler one
Mr. 4Styles--WOW, 10 rounds of smooth in 2 hours! Way to go with that.
Fascination--Good luck with the next chapter, whatever it may bring!
And I hope that the people with the negative energy you mentioned upthread calm the bleep down or at least stop bringing their drama into your life. As the most celebrated meme of the last couple years would have it, "Ain't nobody got time for that!"
Normal school day, for once!
9:10--ENG 1101. In class debates.
12:40--WALK ON THE WILDE SIDE. Discussed the Cleveland Street Affair. (Famous male prostitution scandal in 1889. What's interesting about it is that none of the johns were punished at all, and only two people who worked there, both of whom could also be charged with procurement. The person who served the longest sentence out of this scandal? A journalist.)
Home. Took Child to dance.
I think we watched some Olympics that night.
10-11:30--First year team meeting.
1:45--Left for DC with a student. 1 hour to the metro, and then about 1 hour on metro to Capitol South.
4--Got together with a friend who works at the State Department.
6-8--DC RISING RECEPTION FEATURING EVE ENSLER, CONGRESSWOMAN CAROLYN MALONEY, CONGRESSWOMAN JAN SCHAKOWSKY, AND MANY FEMINIST LEADERS INCLUDING TERRY O'NEILL OF NOW AND ELEANOR SMEAL OF THE FEMINIST MAJORITY. Very cool event, and one of the main coordinators is an alum of the college where I teach. Very proud. Two people from our campus safety division who do rape crisis presentations and a professor of sociology were also there.
By the way, this is a HUGE international event to call attention to issues of justice for women. There are thousands of events. I believe something like 200 countries are involved. For events in your area: http://www.onebillionrising.org/events/#!/0/0/1/
I just took a brief look back at this thread, going back to 09. Remarkable, how much memory cascaded from reading what I wrote, and how interesting to look at the early steps in what has become some pretty good friendships. YA threadmembers were wonderful friends, and helped me through some rough patches, rejoiced at the good stuff, and actually read my LOOOONG and wordy posts. For which I am grateful.
I'll try to be more up to date. Life has taken me on some interesting twisty paths.
So: Let me see if I can do a couple of days this week.
Go out to broom off snow from disastrous driveway, only to find that the plow/shovel guy was already on it, yay
Home, lunch, crash
Soup and salad at old favorite place, which I miss; since moving away, I seldom stop by
Home, read, Z
Gyro, which I almost didn't do b/c I was so ouchie, but the stretching and movement inherent in gyro was a magical fix
Get text from Amy, who rented my best gown for her last comp, and wants to rent it for the next one; however, I am wearing it for that comp, so she asks if I have anything else; I do; she's pleased; however, we laugh over the fact that she and I will be dancing against each other!
Home, food, prep for
Lesson, in which Magic Happened; ones like that will keep me coming back forever
Home; bit o' food
To work; traffic is appalling, I am LATE TO WORK, which makes me crazy and the chef is most displeased with me and says so; who can blame her? there's an hour to prep for class, I've thrown the schedule off
Class is mercifully small, only 6 people, and there are two assistants, so all the work gets done quickly and well, until... chef gets flustered and starts to forget steps and ingredients; the possibility for disaster is huge, but luckily all students are friends of the chef, so nobody cares, not to mention they've brought their own liquid supplies, so they would be happy anyway; class runs way over time
Leave phone at work; TDNWMH
Stop at winebar on the way home to visit with Blond German Friend, but winebar has a wine tasting, so she can't hang out, and I turn around and walk out the moment I see the crowd
Pulled over by police on the way home -- same cop, same intersection as the last time, 3 years ago; TDNWMH, he obviously has JA radar
Home, glass of wine, Z
Wake late, by my standards (7:00); this happening often recently, I think partly b/c it's WINTER and b/c cat is no longer waking me at 5am
Have intestinal issues for the whole morning; also realize I did not eat enough the previous day; am lightheaded and wobbly
Coffee banana etc
Shower, dress for Lesson
Eat a lot; by way of a change, this does not come back to bite me in the knat, so I obviously needed it
To work before lesson, to pick up my phone; people I work with give me some minor razzing about leaving the phone
To supermarket to pick up ingredients for Samina's Amazing Homemade No Kidding This Stuff Is Great Gatorade-Replacement
Lesson; inform Teach that I'm wobbly and weak and make some Samina's Amazing real fast; consume it; five minutes later, am doing well; he decides we will do Standard foxtrot instead of Smooth, since JA is wobbly and weak; turns r not me, at the moment, but 15 minutes later, I'm all better (Samina's Amazing is truly amazing)
Supermarket for pre-Snowmageddon supplies; get call from a buddy, Let's Have Lunch; we do
Tutor; my Tutee has big issues, I did not realize, when I took her on, that she's got an IQ of 75; I have a lot to learn from her, maybe more than she has to learn from me
Theater; we take my car rather than Father's new SUV, b/c who wants to pay the extra $10 to park an SUV? I'd much rather take his car, in winter; it's 4WD and high driving position, great for crappy roads, but we have to balance that and the $; meh, if that's my worst problem, I'm doing well; show is so-so, drive home is easy
To winebar to deliver bag of stones and some glue to Blond German Friend, who may be re-stoning the gown I'm renting, if renter so wishes
ccm...thanks...transitions can be rough, but I am actually trusting into this one reasonably well, and I also think that hot yoga is playing a big role in helping me to be in touch with my best self right now and in knowing what I need and what is not good for me...perhaps it is because my husband has had so much uncertainty at work, or perhaps it is because I will turn 50 in 19 months, or perhaps it is because that is only one month before my baby gets married, or maybe it is because I have simply felt overwhelmed by pressure and toxicity at work and elsewhere for so long that, while some parts of this make me very sad, I am welcoming an opportunity to construct a healthier more affirming experience ...and I am grateful for that.....
Pretty regular day of work.
8:45, 9:05, 9:25, 9:45--ENG 1101 appts. First one was no show.
10:20--POSTCOLONIAL LITERATURE. Finished discussing Things Fall Apart. A student surprised me and came up with an interpretation I'd never heard or thought of...which is pretty amazing considering I've taught this book probably a dozen times, and read quite a number of scholarly articles on it. This stimulated quite a bit of discussion. We really probably needed another class session to do full justice to this book, or at least another 30 minutes, but we are already struggling to stay on top of things due to the snowstorm.
Lunch, preparation for next class.
12:40--WALK ON THE WILDE SIDE. Wilde's trials. The first was a libel trial he brought against the Marquis of Queensbury who had accused him of "posing as a sodomite."
1:45, 2:05--ENG 1101 appts.
3--Pick up Child. Check to see what the studio is going to do in light of impending snow. Close 1 hour early? Deal.
4--Child to dance.
4:30-7--Child at dance. I am SUPER tired due to going to bed too late after DC outing. (I didn't get home until 10:30 PM and was kind of keyed up.) Wrote in diary a bit.
Kids are supposed to be out at 7:45, but coach is keeping them over...and it's snowing. Parents are getting itchy to hit the road before the conditions get worse. Finally out.
Snow day! All told, we get something like 22" of snow, about 19-20" in the first wave, and then a second wave came in after darkness, undoing some of the the work of the plows.
I had a pretty relaxing day:
-Wrote in my diary.
-8.25 miles on treadmill. Showered.
-Solved a minor crisis Child was having vis a vis an online course she is taking.
-Watched the Olympics.
-Marked a half dozen papers.
Basically, other than the workout, it was a PJ day!
Spent the better part of yesterday working on a lean and mean
WEB PAGE for my husband's business. Let's note: I have no idea what I'm doing. I am NOT a technology person.
PRAISED the heavens for Go Daddy dot com - now, if I can just follow the instructions.
WHY? I ask myself....yesterday, Because, as I remind myself all day yesterday, a web page designer costs $$$$.
Caught the Olympics loved the snow sports. Ice Skating was magnificent and amazing, almost cried hearing the back story of the Gold Medal pairs male.
Promised myself, if I get back to Park City, UT, I'm definately doing a bob-sled ride. WEEEEEEEEE.
Found pictures from long ago of our kids, had a rockin good laugh,,,,compelled to post a few on social media,,,hysterical calls from cousins,,,who needed a laugh apparently.
Plan logistics with Grandson's mama for Calif Open.
Pick up GS, DH and I - head to beach.
Check into our hotel, Check into Mama's hotel - pick up her room keys - she arrives in evening.
Head to Hilton Costa Mesa - get lay of the land so we are not LOST on Sunday morning.
GS does cartwheels on the hotel carpet,,continuous - into restaurant...uhhhhhh, sigh.
He has got more energy than I could possibly bottle and sell.
Dinner at hotel restaurant (promise to GS since he's never been),
Pro spots "Z" at glass elevator which GS "Z" wants to ride...thinking this is awesome.
Pro kidnaps GS from DH - takes him for a ride, and escalators, and where Pro has DW and kids.
GS loves it.
Eat dinner, run into friends I haven't seen since Emerald...it's catch up conversation time,,,GS still doing cartwheels.
Meet up with GS mama,,,drop him off.
Next morning, logistics mapped out, phone calls made,
Meet up at the Hilton, more friends,,,GS is good to go and not at all nervous...
GS dances with teacher...while dancing Swing,,,GS is pulling up his belt as they open out in the figures cause his pants are falling...LOL.
Mama - has huge giant tears in her eyes, trying not to cry while she watches her son.
Ahhhh, memory making moments in time.
Good day for GS, and everyone else. Head home - lots of pics. Post a few to FB.
Take a 3 hour nap, haven't done THAT in years!
Watch ice dancing/Olympics - nighty night!
sun...cook most of the morning...have family over....husband goes out to console friend of ours who is going through a divorce....these are very close friends....very...so.....not much sleep last night
Another snow day in which I largely stayed in my pjs.
-writing in my diary,
-reading ENG 1101 rough drafts and e-mail feedback to students,
-reading Gay L.A.,
-watching the Olympics,
-long talk on the phone with my BFF.
Just for a rare change of pace, it snowed some more, but at least this time there was no serious accumulation.
The day's activities included
-reading and commenting on 12 Walk on the Wilde Side short pieces,
-reading Gay L.A.,
-8 miles on the treadmill while reading Divergent.
-Child and I visited my sister and my baby nephew!
-Later, we moved on to the Mid-Atlantic Dancesport Championships. We watched for about 2.5 hours and handed out the scholarship checks for Youth Latin.
That night, Child had a lengthy Facetime chat with her friends who moved to Florida around Christmas.
Wrote a FB PM to try to solve one of my logistical challenges. (To wit, we are invited to an out of state wedding that Child is not invited to.) Good news: the family of a BFF would be thrilled to have her sleepover. YAY! Win-win.)
After 4 days off, we were finally back at the college!
8ish--Mad preparatory hour, as it somehow had not occurred to me on Wednesday that school would be cancelled Thursday AND Friday, so I wasn't as prepared as I could be to lose Friday.
9:10--ENG 1101. Discussed audience.
10:20--POSTCOLONIAL LITERATURE. The Joys of Motherhood.
Lunch and grading time. Treated myself to a candy bar from the vending machine since we had been all out of lunchbox desserts.
12:40--WALK ON THE WILDE SIDE. The Picture of Dorian Gray.
2-5--Grading and office hours.
Wrote a letter of recommendation.
Re-read some Queer London, in prep for Wednesday.
Read some Gay L.A. for fun.
Massive snow day, in which I did a whole lotta nothing, was very relaxing
Dig car out of snowbank; this takes some time, shall we say
Shower and change and prep for lesson; go out to car to drive to lesson; car has frozen itself into the ice beneath its tires; TDNWMH; chip car out of ice, am 15 minutes late for
Lesson, in which magic happened
To House of Ex to pack and ship; takes forever, to ship one small package
Home; crash hard
Up early; prep small dinner party for later
To work by 9am; we are baking bread today, and that's always fun
It starts to snow. Again.
Home from work early enough to manage the rest of dinner prep without going crazy
Guest -- ok, let's call him Date -- takes bus from NYC, where he lives, shows up on time, even though it's snowing again; we get conversation going while finishing dinner prep (I get him to peel apples for the pie; he manages not to draw any blood, so I figure it'll be OK); BFF shows up for dinner without her spouse, who is not feeling well (her car gets stuck in driveway); father returns from theater in NY, much food consumed, smashingly wonderful wine (courtesy of Date) consumed, and a whole lotta talk; dessert in front of fireplace, then Date gets bus back to NYC; all in all, an interesting and successful evening, barring the car stuck in the driveway
Finish remaining wine while pondering many things, sitting in front of dying embers of fire
Dig out BFF's car; this involves the two of us, four shovels, a pitchfork, and some deep breathing, b/c car has melted itself into the 4" of ice in the driveway, and freeing the tires takes us about 2.5 woman-hours of hard labor, but it is free at last
Spend the rest of the day napping, except for brief visit to Downton Abbey
Lesson, in which I get used to the weight of the gown, before this weekend's comp
Drop off gown at dressmaker for re-stoning
To NYC to have Fun with Samina and some of her family; Chinatown for dim sum, Little Italy for pastry and coffee; SoHo for shopping -- young people are headed to Topshop, I go to Farmacia Santa Maria Novella and get the most luscious hand cream in the world; more shopping, then the youngsters are exhausted and ready to go home; seriously? you are in your 20s, why are you tired?
Text from Teach; tonight's class cancelled; bah humbug
As long as I'm in the city... text Date; hey, you doing anything? we meet for a drink (me) and a meal (him) in his neighborhood, which is extremely ethnic and I like 'em like that, bachata music blaring from the shops on teh avenue, street life like crazy; restaurant is weird, a sushi/steakhouse with Dominican flavor, green lighting (so flattering to me, green neon) and a wicked good mojito; about half an hour into the evening, we also discover it's a hookah bar
Hookah bar. I have not been in a restaurant that permitted smoking in ages. in NYC? hookah bar? Seriously?
Home, leave car at bottom of driveway, facing down, so I can get out in the morning